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Millennial Life: Be a Buddy, Take a Bullet
My daughter and her best friend started their own business. They made business cards and put the QR code to their Red Cross babysitting certification on the back. Their first client was a neighbor with a toddler who came to our house, where I could watch all three of them, and be a business respite program. I overheard one of them lament after ...Read more

Asking Eric: Friend breaks off contact after her husband’s death
Dear Eric: "Sue" and I have been neighbors and friends for more than 50 years. She and her husband are godparents to one of our children, we are members of social groups together, like book club and bridge group. We have shared many occasions together, at the holidays and with our families.
A couple of years ago her husband (and our friend) ...Read more
Dear Annie: Overlooked and Unhappy
Dear Annie: I'm writing this concerning my family. I have five sons and one daughter who are all grown and have children.
My third son, "Jake," has two adult daughters and an adult son. When Jake's two daughters were kids, I went head over heels in buying things for them. The son wasn't born yet. I bought nothing but the best for the girls, and...Read more
Widowed Mother Develops New Interest In Daughter's Finances
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I are in our 50s. For several months, I have been struggling with an issue I have with my mom. She constantly asks me how much my annual income is and how much my husband makes. In the 20-plus years we have been married, we have never asked to borrow money from my parents (or anyone, for that matter). We have always ...Read more

Asking Eric: Son offers no thanks for gifted lake house
Dear Eric: Perhaps my problem stems from the fact that I am a mid-80s mom? A couple of years ago, our very responsible son asked if he could invite about 10 friends to our large lakeside cabin during our absence. There is plenty of room for all to sleep, a big kitchen and boats and a nice lake for all to enjoy. We said fine.
Married and single ...Read more
Girlfriend Uneasy With Boyfriend's Friendship With Ex
DEAR HARRIETTE: My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year now, and for the most part, things have been going really well. He's kind and supportive, and he makes me feel valued. There's one thing that's been bothering me more and more lately: how often he talks about his ex. He brings her up in casual conversation, shares stories from...Read more
Second-Time Mom Wants To Avoid Looking Greedy
DEAR MISS MANNERS: I am expecting my second daughter in March. Our families are both looking forward to having a baby shower for two main reasons: This will be the first shower we've had, because we lived too far away last time, and also because I've had two miscarriages prior to this pregnancy.
Obviously both sides of the family are very ...Read more
Loving My Daughter, Struggling With Her Choices
Dear Annie: My daughter will be 26 this year. Her father and I divorced when she was 14. I feel like she had more sense as a 12-year-old than she does now. She had her fair share of issues growing up, and I took her to therapists until she turned 18. Needless to say, we've had a rough relationship the last few years. It's hard to talk to her ...Read more
Neighbor's 'Pet Project' Is Now More Than A Nuisance
DEAR ABBY: Recently, my neighbor, who has always been eccentric, has embarked on an unusual gardening project. Instead of traditional plants, he's turned his backyard into a sprawling sanctuary for rescued wild animals. At first, it seemed harmless, but the situation has escalated. His yard now attracts wildlife, including raccoons, skunks and ...Read more

Asking Eric: Wife won’t apologize for abusive behavior
Dear Eric: My wife and I have been married 26 years. Our children are 25 and 22 and live with us. Over the years we have had plenty of arguments and came very close to divorce immediately after my youngest was born. We attended counseling for a while, but it didn’t really change anything.
In recent years, every little argument sets my wife ...Read more
Brother's New Wife Puts Pressure On Husband
DEAR HARRIETTE: My younger brother got married last year. This is his first marriage, and he's in his 50s. In some ways, I think getting married later can be a bit easier: You know what you want, you know your boundaries and you are likely more established (professionally and financially). I think in some ways that rang true for my brother, but ...Read more
Friend Always Flakes Last-Minute
DEAR MISS MANNERS: I have a longtime friend who has a habit of waiting until the last minute to confirm plans or even make them.
One Sunday morning, she asked me if I would like to come over and go for a walk sometime that week and then stay for dinner. I said, "Does Wednesday work for you? It looks like the weather will be OK that day."
On ...Read more
Setting Limits on Good Deeds
Dear Annie: I've been helping my neighbor with errands and yard work ever since his wife passed last fall. He's 82, lives alone and doesn't have any close family nearby. At first, it felt good to help -- and I still care about him -- but lately, it's gotten overwhelming.
He's started calling me daily, asking me to pick up groceries, sit with ...Read more
Neighbor Is Suddenly A Fixture In Couple's Lives
DEAR ABBY: I have a female friend, "Kylene," who needs yard work done weekly. My fiance, "Josh," goes over there to do the work for her. He charges $60. During the last two weeks, she has been popping up at our home uninvited. Kylene knows Josh's work schedule and makes sure she sees him daily at the neighborhood bar around 4 in the afternoon. ...Read more

Asking Eric: Friend always offers help and then flakes
Dear Eric: How do you recommend dealing with a friend who often offers assistance but never follows through? By the way, cognitive or memory issues do not impact any other situations, and the offer does appear to be genuine.
Since the matters are generally not urgent, and I have the means to resolve them on my own, I would rather not wait days,...Read more
Employee Considers Taking New Job Offer
DEAR HARRIETTE: I recently received a job offer from another company that comes with a significantly higher salary than what I'm currently making. The role is in a field I've been wanting to move into for years, and while it's a little intimidating, it genuinely excites me. When I told my current employer about the offer, they surprised me by ...Read more
Drama On The Escalator
DEAR MISS MANNERS: I was leaving an underground transit station and making my way to the escalator to go up to the street when I noticed a tall young man gaining rapidly on me from behind.
We have an unwritten rule that you stand on the right side of the escalator if you just want to ride, and move to the left if you want to walk up the moving ...Read more
Friendship or Boundary Issue?
Dear Annie: My husband, "Mark," and I have been married for six years. For the most part, things are good between us, but there's one recurring issue I can't get past. Mark's ex-wife, "Tina," is still very involved in his life -- not in a co-parenting way, since they don't even have kids, but socially. She calls him every few weeks or so, ...Read more
Mother-Daughter Rift Puts Dad In A Tough Spot
DEAR ABBY: My daughter, "Violet," lives about two hours away. She and her mother (my wife) do not get along. Violet was always a rebellious, independent wild child, as well as the source of a lot of family problems. Violet and I also were estranged until we recently reconciled.
Yesterday, she sent me an email inviting me to lunch to celebrate ...Read more
Single File: Bed Gratitude
Her phone call startled me. The distraught woman on the other end spoke in rapid-fire sentences, most of them half-finished. Every word was confused, jumbled. But after some time, it became clear that her husband of 30 years was leaving the marriage. He wanted to live alone. In a way, he had already gone; they hadn't had sex in a year, and the ...Read more
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