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Dear Eric: My now-retired parents are terrific people. They're interesting, kind, hardworking and A++ grandparents. My wife and I marvel at how instinctive, capable and giving they are with our two young boys.

That said, every year that goes by, their anxiety reaches new heights.

It seems like a classic case of having very little to fill the ...Read more

Dear Eric: I work at a small bank with nine coworkers, including myself. We have a dilemma going on in the office. The president and his assistant are sleeping together. They were caught on video after hours in the office. They also rush a few of us out of the office at the end of the day and stay back to do who knows what.

They have been ...Read more

Dear Eric: I have a friend, from college 40 years ago, who I’m only now realizing is a

needy, self-aggrandizing narcissist. In all of that time, absolutely no one in my circle has ever liked her.

She has driven people away, including her spouse, but maybe subconsciously I thought with me it was different. She has lived far away for most of ...Read more

Dear Eric: My parents recently died a few months apart. While taking care of my mom's last wishes, my sister told me that she went to prison for human trafficking years ago. She wasn't sorry for it in any way and defended her actions. She may as well have told me she was a serial killer. I can't even look at her now.

I discovered my other ...Read more

Back in 2019 (and for some reason it graced my mind today), the actress Emma Watson brought attention to singledom, not simply by saying that she is happily single but by naming herself as “self-partnered.” It not only acknowledges the fact that being single is a choice, which many people seem to forget, but it’s a valid one at that.

Too ...Read more

Dear Anna,

I recently got out of a long-term relationship — seven years, monogamous, talked-about-getting-married serious. I’m 34, and this is the first time I’ve been properly single since my mid-20s. It’s been a mix of freeing and terrifying. The dating scene feels like a completely different planet now — apps, situationships, ...Read more

Dear Eric: I'm on a condo board with a couple of men who seem very controlling and regularly impugn my honesty. This is extremely uncomfortable. I'm not sure how to respond. For example, we had a meeting and one of them said we never have discussed these topics at this kind of meeting. I'm the secretary. I said look at last year's special ...Read more

Dear Eric: My friend who lives in the same apartment building doesn't drive. She insists I take her shopping or to other places. She knows I don't like to drive, especially when she doesn't give me gas money. I keep telling her to ask other people for a backup. I’m ready to just say no most times. She'll never get mad at me. Should I just say ...Read more

Dear Anna,

I’ve been with my partner for two years in a rocky but loving relationship. Our main issue is his all-consuming passion for photography. He's on his camera club's volunteer committee, attends meetings every Monday, shoots Wednesday and Thursday evenings plus some Fridays, and spends Saturday and Sunday mornings on photo walks. He ...Read more

A question I occasionally get (though, not too often since I mainly work with people in the very early stages of meeting and new relationships) is this: “When should I ask the person I’m dating about their finances?”

This has been especially relevant lately in light of the movie "Materialists" out right now about a matchmaker is ...Read more

Dear Anna,

I've been with my girlfriend for eight months, and I'm starting to feel like I'm competing with her phone for her attention — but not in the way you'd expect. She's become obsessed with AI chatbots. At first I thought it was just a novelty thing, but now when she's stressed about work, upset with her family, or even excited about ...Read more