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Asking Eric: Wife has racked up $16k in secret bills

Life Advice / Asking Eric /

Dear Eric: Over the course of our 26-year marriage I have caught my wife in numerous lies. We started marriage counseling three months ago and during an early session I asked if we could finally be truthful with each other, no more lies. No such luck.

Years ago, her brother suddenly fled and left all his belongings. She put them in storage but ...Read more

Drawing the Line With My Daughter-in-Law

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My 54-year-old son recently married his childhood sweetheart with whom he had a son 36 years ago. They never married before but kept in touch because of their son. Unfortunately, their boy was killed in an auto accident four years ago.

I've loosely kept in touch with my new daughter-in-law all this time. Last year, she stole a ...Read more

Asking Eric: 19 years and no proposal; what gives?

Life Advice / Asking Eric /

Dear Eric: I've been with my boyfriend for 19 years. We have lived together for more than 16 years, but every anniversary comes and goes without a proposal.

I'm wondering if I should ask him next February, even though I feel he should ask me. I've been waiting long enough. I appreciate your advice.

– No Ring

Dear Ring: You don’t have to ...Read more

When a Mother's 'Help' Hurts

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I'm 28 and recently moved back in with my parents to save money after a tough breakup. I'm grateful for the support, but I'm having trouble with my mom's behavior. She constantly comments on my weight, how I dress, or how much I'm on my phone. Last week, she said I'd have "better luck" if I wore makeup and "put myself out there ...Read more

Asking Eric: Parent gives daughter’s ex free room and board plus a loan

Life Advice / Asking Eric /

Dear Eric: Over the last 10 years, the father of my grandchildren has been a severe alcoholic. Two years ago, my daughter left him.

After he had been living on the streets, my daughter asked if he could stay in my basement so that he would get sufficient rest and be able to have the children with him; she knows it's important for the children ...Read more

One-Sided Connections

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My sister "Michelle" and I used to be close, but things changed after she had her second child. She rarely returns my calls and only texts if I reach out first. When we do talk, it's always short, and she seems distracted or annoyed. I've offered to help with the kids or bring meals by, but she always says she's "got it handled."

...Read more

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Ask Anna: Did we move in too fast? And what's the 3-6-9 rule?

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

Dear Anna,

I’m a 28-year-old woman who moved in with my boyfriend (30) after only four months of dating. It wasn't planned — my lease was ending, his roommate moved out and it just made sense financially and logistically. Plus, we were spending every night together anyway, so why pay for two places? We've now been living together for two ...Read more

Single File: Personal Inventory

Life Advice / Single File /

Relax your body before you start this questionnaire. It's important you start this with shoulders loose and mind clear. Don't rush through the following questions, because chances are they'll lead to still more probing. (For now, jot down those additional questions on a separate sheet of paper for future reference.) The best way to do these ...Read more

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Ask Dating Coach Erika: He says we have no chemistry!

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

Q: We’re two months in. Everything else is great, but he says we have no chemistry. Can it build? Give it more time?

A: I have a genuine question for you: Why would you want to be with someone who tells you that he has "no chemistry" (those are strong words) with you? Don't you think you deserve that, at a minimum?

With men, no, chemistry ...Read more

Asking Eric: Daughter’s clutter keeps getting her kicked out of apartments

Life Advice / Asking Eric /

Dear Eric: My 40-year-old daughter and spouse live in an apartment with their children. Both were raised in clean, tidy homes.

I know they have always paid the rent on time wherever they live. The issue: they're both nasty slobs. They've been in their current apartment less than six months. Their patio is full of trash, unused plant pots, ...Read more

Walking on Eggshells

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am 60 years old and the mother of five grown children. I raised them mostly on my own after my divorce, and those years were not easy. There were slammed doors, late nights waiting up and more than a few tearful arguments. My daughters, especially during their teenage years, could be painfully cruel with their words. But somehow,...Read more

Asking Eric: Friend is shell of himself after relationship

Life Advice / Asking Eric /

Dear Eric: I have a friend who is a great person. He told me about some experiences that made me extremely worried for his safety. He left town a few years ago for work and he started dating another guy, which I never really approved of because things seemed to move extremely fast and I didn’t like the way he was treated by his ex.

My friend ...Read more

Hosting Without Reciprocity

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I have a dear friend of 49 years. She has been married for more than 50, while I only married seven years ago. She stood beside me as my matron of honor, and over the years, we have shared so many memories, laughs and life milestones together.

Since my marriage, my husband and I have hosted this couple for dinner more times than I...Read more

Asking Eric: Family thinks brother is too wealthy to be included in tradition

Life Advice / Asking Eric /

Dear Eric: My husband and I have been married for almost 10 years. He has three siblings, and it seems like he’s the forgotten one. His mom and siblings always put money together and send it for each other’s birthdays. Last year and the year before that, they did it for everyone’s birthday except my husband.

He was very upset about it but...Read more

When Neighbors Get Loud

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I recently moved into a new townhome, and for the most part, I love it here. It's quiet, cozy and exactly what I wanted for this next chapter of my life. That is, until my new neighbors moved in upstairs.

It's a couple with a dog. The dog is an angel -- never barks, never causes a problem. The issue is the husband. From morning ...Read more

Millennial Life: The Thin Veil Between Us

As her three kids steadily picked through the large orange bowl for all the remaining chocolate, she said she remembered when my husband had started his office. The first Halloween was in a pandemic, but there was a driveway. He dressed up in a fake hazmat suit and real mask to give candy to kids in the backseats whose trick-or-treating had been...Read more

Asking Eric: Between affairs and a secret crypto account, wife can’t trust husband anymore

Life Advice / Asking Eric /

Dear Eric: My husband “Bob” and I celebrated our 30th anniversary this past spring. He has many wonderful qualities, but he’s also a “lone wolf” who very rarely asks for my input or help.

A few months before he retired, I discovered he’d gone on a hike with a young, pretty coworker.

Many years before, he’d had a two-year affair ...Read more

Betrayed at Home

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I returned home from a trip recently to find my world turned upside down. While I was away, my daughter, her husband and my two grandchildren, who live in a camper on my property, broke into my home. They forced their way into my bedroom, the basement where I store my late husband's antiques, my sheds, my grain bin and even cut the...Read more

Asking Eric: Husband keeps giving wife socks; they remind her of a terrible experience

Life Advice / Asking Eric /

Dear Eric: My husband of more than 20 years gives me slipper socks with grippy soles. I hate them! We live in a hot climate, so I have little use for them. They filled up my sock drawer and they retraumatize me every time I touch them.

I threw them away and they came back. He gave me five more pairs at Christmas. I kept these for animal first ...Read more

Happily Married, but Hardly Intimate

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I'm 73, and my wife is 74. We've been married for 53 years and have never spent a night apart due to marital conflict. Admittedly, each of us may have spent a night or two on the couch, but my point here is that I think we're still happily married.

The problem is that we've not been intimate for nearly 10 years. The closest we get...Read more